Category: Grief, Trauma, & Resilience

  • Birth Day: A Recollection

    Birth Day: A Recollection

    Life is as short as the memories of those who loved us and what they say about us after we’re gone.

  • Widows Speak Up

    Widows Speak Up

    We widows and other bereaved folks who cannot get past our losses fear being unhappy the rest of our lives.

  • Breaking Up

    Breaking Up

    Without psychological separation, we don’t know where we end and the other person begins. Our projections veil the reality of things until we withdraw them and set ourselves and others free.

  • Letting Go

    Letting Go

    When the basis of one or more habits decays or disappears, we discover we don’t know who we are any more.

  • Roadster

    Roadster

    No matter how hard I held on, or what the doctors did, this disease was a roiling, heaving event greater than us.

  • Things Fall Apart

    Things Fall Apart

    If you have ever lost anything of great substance, ever experienced the dissolution of an important relationship or the death of a beloved, you’ve known what it is to sink to your lowest point.

  • Hour of Lead

    Hour of Lead

    Unfortunately, we don’t get to choose the means of our transitions and transformations. What changes us is proportionate to our own nature.

  • Saturday Morning

    Saturday Morning

    Wouldn’t it be nice if things just took care of themselves, did their jobs, worked as programmed? Wouldn’t it be nice if things just went as planned?

  • The Hidden Seed

    The Hidden Seed

    Devastating losses in the temporal world have led to corresponding psychological losses, so that a person experiences a state of nearly complete loss of ego identity and identification with the material world.

  • Flannel Shirt

    Flannel Shirt

    I am driving down Fourth Street, and my heart aches. It aches and pulls all the time since my husband died, but most of the time I keep ice on it.