How the Light Gets In
“Start again,” I heard them say, “Don’t dwell on what has passed away or what is yet to be.” — Leonard Cohen
If People Were Stray Animals
If people were stray animals, we would all be worth rescuing. Groups of rescuers would band together, forming networks whose only purpose is to give care and comfort to the abandoned. […] How lovely, if each traumatized person were valued as much as a stray animal.
I am ill because of wounds to the soul.
Patricia: Part 6
Liz thoughtfully sipped her tea and thought about the progress her client, Patricia, had made over the past few months. Before getting to know Patricia, she would probably never have believed that she would find in her such a willing and able client. Patricia’s gutsiness and her agile mind combined to make her very determined,…
Patricia: Part 4
She was in a city of cobble-stoned streets and narrow, covered walkways that twisted and turned here and there. The air felt dense and cloying, and a low-lying thick fog permeated everything. Patricia was running and stumbling along the street, chasing a scrawny gray alarmed cat that seemed neither adult nor kitten, having the size…
Patricia: Part 3
Irritation is like any other outburst of affect… anything that is emotive and disorients a person’s conscious condition. Thus another person or symbolic being can be a personified transmitter of unconscious contents that are seeking expression.
Patricia: Part 2
Patricia was a 28-year-old single mother of two planning adoption for her unborn child, a son she said was conceived as the result of a date rape. After contacting an adoption agency and completing an intake interview with a social worker, she was referred to an independent counselor for pre-placement counseling.
As St. Paul wrote, each of us is to “work out your own salvation with fear and trembling.” This is no simple task, for we will face our worst selves, encounter dragons, be beguiled and bewitched, receive wounds and scars, stand at the edge of more than one gaping abyss, and ultimately fall on our…
We like to watch our families and real, whole people on television and in the movies, but we don’t want to do the hard character work of truly being in a family or being a real, whole person.
Let the Healing Begin
To whatever extent the healthy, generous meeting of these needs is denied or hindered, the Self is similarly impoverished.