Category: Recovery

  • The Beginning of Wisdom

    The Beginning of Wisdom

    The longer you lived in a toxic, shame-based, hurtful environment, the longer your healing will take.

  • Good Help is Hard to Find

    Good Help is Hard to Find

    The entire goal of being helped is robustly healthy, balanced, and honest relationship to others. It is also to gain an awareness of when others unconsciously manipulate or use contempt or shame to try to control you or get their own needs met. If you can do that after receiving help, you have arrived.

  • If People Were Stray Animals

    If People Were Stray Animals

    If people were stray animals, we would all be worth rescuing. Groups of rescuers would band together, forming networks whose only purpose is to give care and comfort to the abandoned. […] How lovely, if each traumatized person were valued as much as a stray animal.

  • Thank You, Tante Waltraud

    Thank You, Tante Waltraud

    “I’ve lived a beautiful, wonderful life and enjoyed every minute. I’ve done and had everything I’ve ever wanted.”

  • Healing

    Healing

    I am ill because of wounds to the soul.

  • 8 Steps to a Good Mind

    When life is difficult, as it often is, how do you cope with reality? Here are some suggestions for maintaining a positive mind.

  • Letting Go

    Letting Go

    When the basis of one or more habits decays or disappears, we discover we don’t know who we are any more.

  • Hour of Lead

    Hour of Lead

    Unfortunately, we don’t get to choose the means of our transitions and transformations. What changes us is proportionate to our own nature.

  • The Guest House

    The Guest House

    This being human is a guest house. Every morning a new arrival. A joy, a depression, a meanness, some momentary awareness comes as an unexpected visitor.

  • Engaging Poverty

    Engaging Poverty

    One always looks for the way out of pain and crisis, because sitting in the crisis and feeling the pain seem unendurable. We don’t examine our situation, look into what brought us to the crisis, and upgrade our philosophy of life. We don’t grow.