How the Light Gets In
“Start again,” I heard them say, “Don’t dwell on what has passed away or what is yet to be.” — Leonard Cohen
The Beginning of Wisdom
The longer you lived in a toxic, shame-based, hurtful environment, the longer your healing will take.
Good Help is Hard to Find
The entire goal of being helped is robustly healthy, balanced, and honest relationship to others. It is also to gain an awareness of when others unconsciously manipulate or use contempt or shame to try to control you or get their own needs met. If you can do that after receiving help, you have arrived.
Little Did He Know
A month after my husband’s death, I wrote that I had discovered the substance of my faith and “found out what’s true for me.” But I don’t know a damn thing today.
I Have No Idea Where I Am Going
“I will trust you always though I may seem to be lost and in the shadow of death…”
8 Steps to a Good Mind
When life is difficult, as it often is, how do you cope with reality? Here are some suggestions for maintaining a positive mind.
Being Willing to Change
“To suffer consciously means to live through the ‘death of ego,’ to voluntarily withdraw one’s projections from other people.” Robert A. Johnson
Sometimes we have to move on, because what is no longer necessary or supportive of growth must be let go.
People like to know where they’re going before they go somewhere. We use our cell phones, the GPS in the car, or an on-line mapping program for even the simplest excursions. There’s something comforting about knowing where you’re going, isn’t there?
The Slime of the Small World
These depressions, anxieties, compulsions, headaches, knots in the stomach, irritations, petty and not-so-petty arguments—that’s where the gold is. This is because the only way the psyche has of speaking its distress is through our symptoms.