Category: Deep Work

  • The Beginning of Wisdom

    The Beginning of Wisdom

    The longer you lived in a toxic, shame-based, hurtful environment, the longer your healing will take.

  • Good Help is Hard to Find

    Good Help is Hard to Find

    The entire goal of being helped is robustly healthy, balanced, and honest relationship to others. It is also to gain an awareness of when others unconsciously manipulate or use contempt or shame to try to control you or get their own needs met. If you can do that after receiving help, you have arrived.

  • Little Did He Know

    Little Did He Know

    A month after my husband’s death, I wrote that I had discovered the substance of my faith and “found out what’s true for me.” But I don’t know a damn thing today.

  • I Have No Idea Where I Am Going

    I Have No Idea Where I Am Going

    “I will trust you always though I may seem to be lost and in the shadow of death…”

  • Being Willing to Change

    “To suffer consciously means to live through the ‘death of ego,’ to voluntarily withdraw one’s projections from other people.” Robert A. Johnson

  • Moving On

    Sometimes we have to move on, because what is no longer necessary or supportive of growth must be let go.

  • MapQuest

    MapQuest

    People like to know where they’re going before they go somewhere. We use our cell phones, the GPS in the car, or an on-line mapping program for even the simplest excursions. There’s something comforting about knowing where you’re going, isn’t there?

  • The Slime of the Small World

    The Slime of the Small World

    These depressions, anxieties, compulsions, headaches, knots in the stomach, irritations, petty and not-so-petty arguments—that’s where the gold is. This is because the only way the psyche has of speaking its distress is through our symptoms.

  • Come As You Are

    Come As You Are

    One of the reasons why people abandon their true selves is because their parents and other authorities—teachers, other adults, older siblings, etc.—tell them they should.

  • The Hidden Seed

    The Hidden Seed

    Devastating losses in the temporal world have led to corresponding psychological losses, so that a person experiences a state of nearly complete loss of ego identity and identification with the material world.