I Believe in the Fall

I believe in the Fall, the Biblical story about Eve biting the apple and the consequences of that act. I believe it in spirit, meaning figuratively but not literally, because human beings seem to act with habitual and wanton disregard for the truth. We disregard truth and proudly carry on in our self-inflated ways even when wisdom shouts and “lifts her voice in the square,” as it says she does in Proverbs:

Wisdom shouts in the street,
She lifts her voice in the square;
At the head of the noisy streets she cries out;
At the entrance of the gates in the city, she utters her sayings:
“How long, O naive ones, will you love simplicity?
And scoffers delight themselves in scoffing,
And fools hate knowledge?
“Turn to my reproof,
Behold, I will pour out my spirit on you;
I will make my words known to you.
“Because I called, and you refused;
I stretched out my hand, and no one paid attention;
And you neglected all my counsel,
And did not want my reproof . . . (Proverbs 1:20-25)

Although being old doesn’t give a person wisdom, learning by experience does. I am finally old enough to be able to look back on a lot of events and old enough to have learned from them. But I’ve been surprised to discover that, for the most part, this wisdom is for myself. As it says in Proverbs 9:12, “If you are wise, you are wise for yourself, and if you scoff, you alone will bear it.” This is so true.

It’s easier to accept good advice about big issues—the ones that scare you or keep you awake at night—than it is to accept someone’s advice on smaller issues. People appear to be more motivated by fear than anything else. Otherwise, we ignore the advice of others when we think everything is fine. In fact, people often make stupid decisions when everything is fine.

The best way to grow in any character trait is little by little. Jesus said that he who is faithful in a very little thing will be faithful also in much; and he who is faithless in a very little thing will be faithless also in much. Therefore, if you want to become wise, the beginning of wisdom is, “get wisdom,” or accept advice. Listen, and consider the advice someone is giving you; consider why the other person is giving you that advice. Ask questions. Consider the possibility (even the probability) that you are mistaken. And if no one has given you advice lately, ask yourself if the reason why might be the way you received the last advice that was given you. Consider the possibility that you are far more resistant and proud than you think you are.

Sometimes the problem is on the side of the giver of advice, particularly when it is unasked-for.  Unfortunately, it seems that many people like to hear themselves talk, and often offer advice out of pride. Advice offered out of pride cannot be good advice.

Perhaps growth in graciousness and wisdom, applied to advice-givers and advice-receivers, will make the world a gentler place. When tempted to give unasked-for advice, don’t. When receiving unasked-for advice, smile sweetly and say, “I’ll think about it, thanks for caring.”

5 responses

  1. Anthromama, you mused, “So often I write long comments and then ask myself, did the blog author ask for my life story? Is that an assumption in writing a blog post, or is it actually annoying? Is blogging just a bunch of people giving their unasked-for opinions and advice? Is there any humility here?”

    Wow, I just love your comments and musings. My immediate reaction to these questions of yours is:

    Speaking only for myself (of course), yes, I do want your life story, so to speak, in your comments. This is what fascinates me about blogging. We give our stories in exchange, we hope, for the stories of others. At least, this is what I am doing. But I’m genuinely curious about and interested in others. I only have this one life of mine–but how I love to look into the lives of others and see how they live and think and feel! It’s a joy and blessing. So, yes, I do want your life story.

    Is blogging a bunch of people giving unasked-for opinions and advice? Perhaps, but I think that blogging–the act of putting one’s thoughts, feelings, and ideas out there into the blogosphere–is an invitation. It invites people to comment if comments are allowed, and thus invites opinions, advice, reaction, and sometimes judgment, anger, and other negatives.

    You asked if there is any humility “there,” I suppose there in the uninvited advice or opinion. I think that depends on the person offering something. The mere act of advising someone or offering opinions is neither proud nor humble–it’s the person or the motivation at the moment, right?

    Interesting you’d ask this. I’ve had the experience this weekend of having advice to offer, but refusing to offer it because of fear and/or pride; and people suffered as a result of my pride. The best thing about my pride was that it sounded so humble, like: WHAT DO YOU KNOW? JUST REMAIN QUIET.

    That sounds so humble; but listening to one’s spirit or intuition or whatever you want to call it, which is so often beating with the heart of God, takes real humility (in my opinion).

  2. Hello, Mat. Yes, I do think it is possible to be both humble and self-confident. Jesus was a good example of that; also Paul, after his conversion, and many other historic figures.

    I’m a Christian and I do not believe that believing in yourself is “pointless,” unless I misunderstand what you mean. And I also do not think that “all humanity is inherently worthless.” In fact, quite the opposite. God considered us so worthwhile that he offered up his son to suffer and die for us; this is the crux of Christianity.

    I do think we can love ourselves as part of the universal One, without needing to be better. We are just different (and yet much the same, too).

    The how to get there part? Hmm…. good question. The first answer that comes to mind is with God’s help, and the second is “through suffering.”

  3. i wonder if it is possible to be both humble and confident in yourself.

    i know christians believe that believing in yourself, or having any other foundation than god, is pointless, because all humanity is inherently worthless outside of utter submission to god(which in practice tends to be religious leaders…)… but from a purely practical, even materialistic viewpoint, is it possible to love yourself without viewing yourself as more valuable than everyone else, which seems to be the foundation of pride? if it is possible, how do you get there?

  4. Not to be flip, but this speaks to my thoughts about blogging and commenting. So often I write long comments and then ask myself, did the blog author ask for my life story? Is that an assumption in writing a blog post, or is it actually annoying? Is blogging just a bunch of people giving their unasked-for opinions and advice? Is there any humility here?

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