Month: September 2007

  • Quoting Saint Augustine

    Our classics reading group will have our last discussion about Saint Augustine’s Confessions tomorrow. I feel sorry to leave St. Augustine behind, for he has become an honest, passionate and true Christian friend. My ideas about Augustine before reading the Confessions this time were based on a cursory reading during my undergraduate years. The manner in […]

  • Losing Streak

    How do you recover from a losing streak, a run of bad luck, a change of fortunes? When your confidence is shaken–whether financially, emotionally, physically, or spiritually–and you doubt yourself or the universe, what drives you to the point of no return or to the point of recovery? These are questions I’ve been asking myself […]

  • Diagnosing Boys Who Behave Badly

    Earlier this week I felt anger and sadness over watching a little boy I know fading into the black hole that sensitive and artistic little children can go into.  Today it seems that the obvious must be stated: boys are different than girls. They start different, and they end up different. They act different at […]

  • Grow a Self

     You do not need to be loved, not at the cost of yourself. The single relationship that is truly central and crucial in a life is the relationship to the self. Of all the people you will know in a lifetime, you are the only one you will never lose. — Jo Coudert, “Advice From […]

  • The Divine Couple

    I’ve been thinking about why romantic movies, particulary movies that are romantic in a large way (Brave Heart, Cinderella Man, The Patriot, Pride and Prejudice, The Last of the Mohicans), are so compelling. I’m reminded of the oddly potent Snow Patrol song, “Chasing Cars,” which is about having a person with whom one can retreat under […]

  • Hush, Hush, Sweet Charlatan

    Quacks, charlatans, posers, pharisees, pretenders. Jesus Christ delivered some of his most scathing rebukes against the sort of spiritual leader whose every action supported the illusion of a self that is able to teach, guide, and heal others without being whole oneself. Helping professionals, whether religious or not, so often “help” without having had a visitation of the holy […]

  • When the Muse is Silent

    There is a muse, but he’s not going to come fluttering down into your writing room and scatter creative fairy-dust all over your typewriter or computer station. He lives in the ground. He’s a basement guy. You have to descend to his level, and once you get down there you have to furnish an apartment […]

  • MO-om! She’s staring at me!

    My daughter was one of the most socially adept people I have ever met. From the yougest age, she captivated people with her vibrant, bubbly personality. She was always happy, unless she was very ill. Olivia’s love of people made her watchful and observant. She liked to consider people, studying their faces and their mannerisms–the way […]